Kyle and I have been together for almost ten years, but married for one year! Sunday we celebrated our one year anniversary! I think newlywed life is different for everyone. For us, it was easy because we had known each other for so long, but equally it was difficult. Life has thrown us many curve balls in the last year that we, together had to learn how to prevail.
Change will occur.
I’m not talking about the day you sign your marriage license everything changes…I am talking about how you and your spouse will change as you grow. I know my passions and life plans aren’t the same as they were one year ago and neither are Kyle’s.
In the vows Kyle wrote to me, he said I vow to take you as you are, loving who you are now and who you are yet to become. This could not be more true in a relationship. You will not be the same person you are today as you will be years down the road and we as a couple realize that and already respect the people we will become.
Silence is bliss.
Bickering is bound to happen whenever you are close to someone. I constantly have people ask me how Kyle and I never argue, which is hilarious. Our response is we threaten to head butt each other at least three times a week. We have had our fair share of arguments in our first year, but something we have learned is to choose your battles and learn how to walk away. I am the kind of person who will shut off whenever I am over a situation while Kyle wants to talk it out (sometimes until the sun goes down and back up again) Although his tactic is much healthier, I have learned to let him talk it out and he has learned that I need space. Every problem can’t be solved over night so sometimes it is best to be silent and choose those battles. Our favorite line, I love you, but right now I don’t like you! Always, always,always love…even when you are two seconds away from loosing your crap.
I know it is easy for the newlyweds to say, but we feel like it is important to “re vow” every year. This doesn’t mean its necessary to celebrate with a big party every year (although I would love to), but it is important to look back at the year, realize what worked and understand what didn’t. We plan to make new promises each year as we grow and learn more about each other and ourselves.
This year has been anything but easy, but it has been so much fun. We have learned so much about each other and our selves. Kyle is truly my other half and I don’t know where I would be without him. We have already been through so much together and he’s my constant, my rock, my person. And for that I am so grateful.
I wanted pictures taken to capture where this year has brought us! I wanted the memories of our first year, our first home, and the love we poured into our house renovation. Also cheers to this guy, who puts up with all my photography schemes. A special thanks to Chelsea Duff Photography who made my one year picture dreams a reality.
Have a blessed day and as always, thank you for reading!